Category: Friendship

Snapshots of Glory – Word Focus 2 Day: Close Friends by Divine Appointment

Want close friends made in heaven? Allow the Holy Spirit to be your best friend. If Jesus needed a close circle of friends to walk with, twelve disciples and then three who were even closer (Peter, James and John) so do we who are his.

Seek the LORD and ask Him who should be among your close friends or in your close inner circle. Trust me, certain people do not qualify and also be warned that not everyone wants you to prosper or fulfil your identity.

When Jesus went to the garden of Gethsemane, he told some of the disciples to wait and took three with him, Peter, James and John who were the only ones to whom he said the following: “My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even to death. Stay here, and watch with me” (Matthew 26:38).

These were the only three disciples he chose because they were destined to walk with Jesus in this manner by God. Could it be that there are people chosen by God to walk with you in different ways? Those who are mere acquaintances, close friends and some even closer? I believe so.

Not everyone should have access to your personal information. We have to walk in God’s wisdom and discernment in relation to how we relate to others. Although we are called to love one another, we are not to do so to our detriment, that is not love. When we allow people to afflict us because we convince ourselves that it is because we love them and we have no choice but to accept whatever offensive treatment they give us, we are in deception. In actual fact fear for the person is what is keeping them bound and in enslavement to them. The two greatest commandment of God are to love God, and our neighbour as ourselves (Matthew 22:36-39). If we do not love ourselves the way God loves us to any degree in order to prevent other people afflicting us physically or emotionally,  then we cannot love them with the genuine kind of love, which is that of God.


Could it also be that as Jesus had Judas in his entourage for only a season because he served a specific purpose only for that season (which was to betray Jesus), that likewise there are certain people in your life and mine only for a season to serve a specific purpose in that season after which God takes them away? I believe this is the case.
In my experience even as a Christian, there are people who were friends of mine, in fact the ones I am thinking of approached me so we became friends but as I grew spiritually and if I told them what God was doing in my life, they would at the time be congratulatory but then after a while appear not to want to know details of things I have birthed to the glory of God. I told them those things not to boast but because as I thought they were close friends of mine, I could share and discuss with them without reservation about such things.
I noticed they would never bring the subject up and would become scarcer in my life, failing to stay in touch as frequently as when I did not have anything significant for them to envy or feel threatened by. At times I would discern in their voice and attitude that they were not really happy for me in terms of my breakthroughs or advancement to the glory of God. I thought back at one of them in particular and how she said God sent her to me in a time when I was quite distressed and she was a great source of encouragement to me and I do believe that God sent her for not only did she encourage me but also prayed for me many times.
However when by God’s delivering hand I began to change my manner of speech and attitude to one who was highly self-encouraging and unrelenting in fulfilling prophetic destiny, as well as being one to minister to her and encourage her as well, I realised sadly a change in her attitude towards me or her desire to be a consistent friend.
I never told this particular friend I did not need her encouragement and prayers, but something in her could not accept me anymore because I had changed. Honestly I struggled to understand and was often hurt by certain mannerisms and attitudes that surfaced as a result of me speaking about what God was doing in my life positively or refusing to stay in the “poor me, pity me” mindset and attitude.
I did forgive her as God gave me a depth of understanding as to why she was acting that way and I began to pray for her. However now having had a certain measure of God given discernment, I have stopped taking initiatives to sustain “close” friendships when I felt they are not bothered anyway to make an effort to stay in touch or maintain closeness. In addition, I don’t hesitate to let people be who start acting strange and think it necessary to pull away from me or those I personally feel led to pull away from if I discern that they don’t like the new me who I know is the real healed me coming to the fore.
If a close friendship begins to fizzle out and you know your conscience is clear and you have not deliberately hurt the person or are in anyway responsible, let it end its course. I have realised that at times certain friendships are for seasons and some people cannot be close to you anymore as you advance into the purposes of God. If you dare forcefully stay in touch with them it is to your detriment especially if you discern the spirit of jealousy, envy and bitterness which is their problem not yours.
Cry out for the gift of discerning of spirits and the Wisdom of God. In these last days, whatever you do make sure you are doing all that is humanly possible in relation to godly Christian living in order to stay strong in the LORD and in the power of His might! The people you hang around with, call your close friends or confidants will play a great part in determining whether you stay strong and on course to fulfil your destiny.
It is only in staying close to God in the power of the Holy Spirit that you will know who God has sent into your life for mutual personal and kingdom purposes, what these are and how long for. You will also know how to interact with people as according to God’s will so that you do not miss God induced mutual opportunities and blessings.
The Holy Spirit knows the wisdom and will of God and reveals them to us (I Corinth. 2). Much prayer for the fruit and gift of the Spirit will develop your nature to be as one who is shrewd as a serpent and gentle as a dove as well as one who has God’s perspective on things. The wisdom and perspective of God will therefore keep you one step ahead of the enemy at all times.
Satan and his demons are pacing about through people and situations seeking whom to devour. The Holy Spirit should therefore be our closest or best friend first and foremost and through him we will be able to discern or know who should be our confidant or close friend. In addition the Holy Spirit will give us sensitivity as to where we should and should not go. We are therefore protected from danger and opening ourselves up to situations which include alliances that are not God’s will for us.
I can testify that God has been bringing me genuine friends who are excited about and share my vision as I do theirs because we understand each other as we are equally yoked spiritually. By this I mean that the Holy Spirit is as much their best friend as he is mine.
Thank you Holy Spirit!
Come Holy Spirit, have your way! God we ask for a greater measure of the gift of discerning of spirits this day, so as to know who we should walk with closely.
We ask for God’s choice of close friends in our lives who are the type of friends we are equally yoked with.
Change us if in any way we fall short of the type of friends you expect us to be to others.
In Jesus’ mighty name we pray Amen.

Poem:
 The Spirit of Truth
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Truly on the road to nowhere are the walking dead masses.
With Father’s truth, you’re on the road to somewhere
on a daily basis.
Truly he will teach you to keep your eyes on what is vital.
With Father’s truth, you will gain faith as a shield of metal.
Truly he will release you from ungodly soul-ties.
With Father’s truth you will overcome Beelzebub, the Father of lies.
Truly he will ensure you no longer waste your life in a barren state
and that you live a fruitful life to Father’s taste.
Receive the Spirit of Truth.
Scriptural inspiration: John 14:26, John 16:13
“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own but will tell you what he has heard. He will tell you about the future.” (John 16:13 NLT).
“But when the Father sends the Advocate as my representative–that is, the Holy Spirit–he will teach you everything and will remind you of everything I have told you.” (John 14:26 NLT).

Note: This devotional is an excerpt from the book Wielding the Sword of the Spirit (Chapter 9) by Deborah Esther Nyamekye (Amazon Books online). Chapter by Chapter it contains devotionals or encouraging articles about diverse topics such as prayer, peace, sacrificial living and worship. Each chapter ends with a poem that relates to the devotional.

©2018 Deborah E. Nyamekye

Prophetic Exhortation: Jesús a su amigo*

The Storm is over, said He. You are surfing in safe waters, riding on my steady wave without a care in the world, amigo!

Your Gates are wide open, said He. You are taking possession, racing on a track void of competition without a care in the world, amigo!The Sword of the Spirit is in your hand, said He. You are breaking strongholds, advancing for the sake of multitudes without a care in the world, amigo!
I calm the Storm.
I open your Gates.

I give you the Sword. 

Yours is to cast your cares on me, amigo!
©8-May2017DENyamekye

(*Title in Spanish translated: Jesus to his friend)

15 Ya no os llamaré siervos, porque el siervo no sabe lo que hace su señor: mas os he llamado amigos, porque todas las cosas que oí de mi Padre, os he hecho notorias.(Juan 15:15)

15 Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you. (John 15:15)

7 Echando toda vuestra solicitud en él, porque él tiene cuidado de vosotros. (1 Pedro 5:7)
7Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.(1 Peter 5:7)

🗣PLAIN SPEAKING & COUNSEL II: The question of friendships; Acquaintance, close/inner circle friend or none of the above!

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While we are called to love one another even those who persecute us because they too are God’s creation who He loves, not everyone is meant to be your close friend. While Jesus had many acquaintances he only had a few close friends. We note how he sent out 70 disciples to minister and had 12 disciples who walked closely with him, even among the 12 there were 3 who stand out as exceptionally close to him within his inner circle namely Peter, James and John.

Thus it is worth noting that our Messiah had different levels of friendships. As we live consecrated lives unto The Lord, the urgent, persistence call is to “depart! depart! from uncleanliness, you who carry “holy vessels” of the Lord ( Isaiah 52:10-12). To put this into action there are many things one is inclined to do which are a result of obeying the commandments of the LORD. Those that we allow in our inner circle of friends whether we are leaders or congregation members could be helpers in our holy walk or distractors and at times we only realise when it is too late. But there is hope, we serve a God of second chances who teaches us to learn from our adverse experiences.

If we are not doing so, we need to pray and ask Father who should be among our close circle of friends. If you have suspicions or discomfort about specific people, do not ignore them as this could be a nudge for you to be careful or start paying attention to what The Lord is trying to tell you. In fact get on your knees daily until you get your answer. Some people may want to be your close friend but are they sent by the LORD? Are they meant to be at the acquaintance level, rather than inner circle level or kept at a distance for reasons you don’t need to blurt out but highlighted by Holy Spirit enough times for you to take a serious stand.

As well as praying about specific situations, praying for the gift of discerning of spirits or a greater measure of it is important for we do not fight flesh or blood, but satanic principalities and powers.

In these last days, we must guard our hearts seriously and be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. It is not about being fearful of people but walking in wisdom for there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, satan as a roaring devouring lion counterfeiting Jesus the redeeming Lion of Judah.

Also it is exhausting and an unproductive use of your time (it is set for God’s purposes, remember) to be here, there and everywhere being with people who may not be sent by the LORD and going places under their influence where God may not have sent you.

Prayer:
Father I commit all our friendships into your hands. You know us, who we are and our purpose in this world. Father I pray that you will minister to each and every one of us and give us wisdom and discernment in how to conduct our interpersonal relationships so that whatever we do with whoever we are with is your will and gives glory to your kingdom,  in Jesus’ name Amen.

You are blessed, determine to stay blessed.

©Deborah E.Nyamekye 21/11/2015

Live in the fullness of your inheritance as a friend of God in 2017 & beyond

Introduction: 
As we enter into the New Year 2017, I would like to present this inspirational teaching as a reminder to us, as to what it means to be a friend of God. Did you know that by virtue of being a believer in Jesus Christ you are a friend of God in the same way Abraham and his descendants were? 

There are house of Israel inheritances therein, being a friend of God that is, which are attainable from Christ. These enable us to sustain intimacy with God and be His holy priesthood.
Many Christians are not taking hold of these inheritances which are part of their covenant relationship with God that allows them to exercise their authority in Christ. The inheritances are the kingly and priestly anointing and the right of access to the revelatory realm of God (portals of heaven) among other blessings.

In this article, I discuss what friendship with God means and the benefits deliberately in an in-depth manner including Old and New Testament scriptures, so as to encourage believers to assess their level of obedience and intimacy with God. Also for those who already walk intimately with Him, that they would press on with greater zeal. Happy New Year and God bless you all! 
Live in the fullness of your inheritance as a friend of God in 2017 & beyond:

God Almighty is always calling us higher, to places of greater intimacy and depth in Him (Rev 4:1) and has told us to call on Him (Jer 33:3). Our being called by Him and being asked to call on Him is so that our God of communication and love will show us mysteries, or hidden things we do not know for He wants us to know the signs of the times and things that He plans to do.

Abraham had faith in God and was obedient to Him many times, a sign that he walked in agreement with God. For these reasons, He was called righteous and a friend of God (James 2:23 KJV).

“Can two walk together except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3 KJV)

“16And the men rose up from thence, and looked toward Sodom: and Abraham went with them to bring them on the way.17And the LORD said, Shall I hide from Abraham that thing which I do;18Seeing that Abraham shall surely become a great and mighty nation, and all the nations of the earth shall be blessed in him? 19For I know him, that he will command his children and his household after him, and they shall keep the way of the LORD, to do justice and judgment; that the LORD may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him.” (Gen. 18:16-19 KJV).
We can see from Genesis 18:16-19, that the type of friendship God had with Abraham was one of trust which meant that God did not want to hide anything from Abraham which was why He told Abraham in advance about His plan to destroy Sodom & Gomorrah.

The 18th and 19th verses of Genesis 18, reveal clearly what God requires from those He calls friends. It is not enough being in covenant with God as Abraham was (verse 18). What seals friendship with God resulting in God trusting the person to the point that He reveals His secrets or what He plans to do is when that person does what God foreknew Abraham would do (verse 19) which is to position him or herself as a leader and tutor in their household to ensure that everyone is living in obedience to the righteous and just ways of God. The aforementioned is a condition for covenant promises of God to come to pass. This is such an important point that needs underlining and remembering daily.

This point highlighted in verse 19, ought to revive or reinforce the reverential fear of God in our hearts and to remind us that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ is indeed the same God of the ancient Israelites.

It is important to question and reflect as we enter the new year and while we live our lives through it, as follows: could the measure of revelation and insight into specific things and what God wants to do, be withheld from many by God because they are not relating to Him beyond just believing in Him as Christians under the new covenant? Are people leaving things undone such as teaching their children or other family members the ways of God regardless of the cost?
Being ready to suffer mockery or affliction momentarily by teaching or preaching the gospel and living a lifestyle as Christ’s witness is a price to pay for at least one member of one’s household eventually coming to the Lord. Are we paying such a price? Do we care enough to do so?

It is just as well God told Abraham that He was about to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah because Abraham was able to intercede for his nephew Lot. This shows the importance of cultivating a lifestyle as a true friend of God as Abraham did; You become God’s trustworthy ordained intercessor for the sake of others, communities and nations because you are privy to His secrets, thoughts and will. You are therefore a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinth. 6:19/Romans 8:26) to pray the will of God and to partner with Him for His plans and purposes to come to pass.

God speaking through Isaiah calls Jacob (Israel) “the seed of Abraham, my friend” (Is.41:8 KJV). The type of friendship that Jacob had with God was inherited from Abraham. God also foreknew that Jacob will have the same nature as Abraham (One jwho activated his covenant relationship with God, not for his own sake but ensured his household lived according to God’s righteous and just ways as well) thus meriting the ability to communicate with God closely, trusted enough to gain insight into God’s mind and be His instrument to bless multitudes.
What evidence is there of this in Jacob’s life?
12And he dreamed, and behold a ladder set up on the earth, and the top of it reached to heaven: and behold the angels of God ascending and descending on it.13And, behold, the LORD stood above it, and said, I [am] the LORD God of Abraham thy father, and the God of Isaac: the land whereon thou liest, to thee will I give it, and to thy seed;14And thy seed shall be as the dust of the earth, and thou shalt spread abroad to the west, and to the east, and to the north, and to the south: and in thee and in thy seed shall all the families of the earth be blessed (Genesis 28:12-14 KJV).

The LORD at the time of affirming Jacob’s Abrahamic covenant inheritance gave Jacob a dream of angels ascending and descending on a ladder at the top of which stood God. This speaks of the following being part of or the product of the covenant of Abraham passed down to Jacob:
1.Right of access to the revelatory realm of God or “portals of heaven” to hear from God and therefore know His will as well as to fellowship with Him so as to have His perpetual peace, joy and righteousness.

2. The prophetic (receiving revelation from God on behalf of the people) and intercessory/ priestly (presenting people & their needs before God)

gifts or anointings upon the house of Israel, called by God as His “kingdom of priests and holy nation” (Ex.19:6KJV).

This prophetic and priestly anointing is Israel’s supernatural inheritance which makes it possible for their natural perpetual service to God in their life path so that the prophetic will of God for the world is made manifest through them (Israelites) collectively as a people as it did specifically through Jesus Christ, sent into the world through Israel.
It is therefore not surprising that Jesus said the following
to his disciples (which we are today)

“Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.” (John 15:15 KJV). Thus as a friend of Jesus Christ, we do not only have the righteousness of God through him (Romans 3:22) but are affirmed friends of God of the calibre of Abraham and his descendants, for as Abraham, we are ones who do not

-take our covenant with God for granted but apply it in our lives as well as teach our households to live according to it as God foreknew Abraham would under covenant (Gen 18:18-19).
-strive to hear from God about His will, plans and purposes for us but rather we cultivate a relationship with him daily so as to receive the knowledge of all things from God through Jesus Christ.

Expressed in another way, we are in actual fact, Jesus’ disciples or friends
1) communing with Jesus, the “Son of Man” (John 1:51)
The picture of open heavens and the Angels of God ascending and descending on the Son of Man (John 1:47-51) Jesus said Nathaniel his disciple will have is a revelation of the portals of God’s heavenly realm (same as Jacob, the friend of God saw in Genesis 28) open to anyone who is a disciple of Jesus Christ, and therefore a friend of God.
Jesus Christ is one who personifies the gateway (he is indeed the only Way John 14:6) or portal to God’s heavenly throne room. May we abide in Christ daily so that we stay completely connected to God spiritually for an enriched natural life fulfilling His will on earth, not just for ourselves but multitudes in Jesus’ mighty name. Amen. or
2) attaining from the house of Israel through Jesus Christ (in the manner of point 1) our inheritance which are

-Right of access to the portals of heaven or revelatory realm of God.

-prophetic and priestly (intercessory) anointing.

This is because Jesus is the seed of Abraham (Gal. 3:16) through his descent from Abraham’s lineage (The line of Jacob’s son Judah) and believers in Jesus Christ are spiritual seeds of Abraham (Gen. 3:29) as partakers of the new covenant (Jer 31:31-34) through acceptance of Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.
Be reminded of your priesthood nature as an anointed believer in Christ Jesus according to the Word of God:
-Christ has made you “a kingdom of priests for God His Father” (Rev 1:6).

-“But you are a chosen people, a Royal Priesthood” (1 Peter 2:9)

-You are built up as a spiritual house made a holy priesthood to offer up spiritual sacrifices to God through Christ Jesus (1 Peter 2:5)

As long as you have the Holy Spirit abiding in you, you are prophetic, in other words through the Spirit of God you are able to hear from God so as to know His mind and will.
In addition to the prophetic and intercessory (priestly) spiritual anointings and access to God’s revelatory realm we receive as our heritage from the Abrahamic covenant through Christ, we are given insight into other blessings we partake of as friends of God which were pronounced on Jacob (Israel) the “seed of Abraham, my friend” (Is.41:8), Abraham’s grandson by his son Isaac (Isaiah 41:8-13). 

These are God’s assurance that we are chosen by Him, and should therefore be fearless. We are guaranteed God’s help, protect and defence against our enemies.
Brethren, there are only two days left of 2016 before the year 2017 commences, it is therefore the right time for you, a friend of God to
1. Thank Him for what He has done in 2016 and past years and is about to do.
2.Seek Him in prayer for revelation and wisdom concerning 2017;
Are your plans in alignment with His for you?
As a friend of God, He wants to share with you what is on His heart concerning yourself, family, individuals, the world etc.. as well as insight into the enemies’ strategies.
The next couple of days are therefore a time to take stock of this year 2016 and set quality time aside in prayer and fasting. Having quiet times to tune one’s spiritual ears to hear what God is saying is also as important as praying and fasting are. While the LORD God can do all things without you, He chooses to partner with you because He is a God of relationship.

As you take delight in the Lord and take hold of the fullness of your inheritance in Him, I pray that God would grant you, his friend, all your heart’s desires according to His perfect will in 2017 and beyond.
You are blessed, determine to stay blessed!
Deborah Esther
©2015Deborah E.Nyamekye 

PLAIN SPEAKING & COUNSEL II: The question of friendships; Acquaintance, close/inner circle friend or none of the above!


While we are called to love one another even those who persecute us because they too are God’s creation who He loves, not everyone is meant to be your close friend. While Jesus had many acquaintances he only had a few close friends. We note how he sent out 70 disciples to minister and had 12 disciples who walked closely with him, even among the 12 there were 3 who stand out as exceptionally close to him within his inner circle namely Peter, James and John.

Thus it is worth noting that our Messiah had different levels of friendships. As we live consecrated lives unto The Lord, the urgent, persistence call is to “depart! depart! from uncleanliness, you who carry “holy vessels” of the Lord ( Isaiah 52:10-12). To put this into action there are many things one is inclined to do which are a result of obeying the commandments of the LORD. Those that we allow in our inner circle of friends whether we are leaders or congregation members could be helpers in our holy walk or distractors and at times we only realise when it is too late. But there is hope, we serve a God of second chances who teaches us to learn from our adverse experiences.

If we are not doing so, we need to pray and ask Father who should be among our close circle of friends. If you have suspicions or discomfort about specific people, do not ignore them as this could be a nudge for you to be careful or start paying attention to what The Lord is trying to tell you. In fact get on your knees daily until you get your answer. Some people may want to be your close friend but are they sent by the LORD? Are they meant to be at the acquaintance level, rather than inner circle level or kept at a distance for reasons you don’t need to blurt out but highlighted by Holy Spirit enough times for you to take a serious stand.

As well as praying about specific situations, praying for the gift of discerning of spirits or a greater measure of it is important for we do not fight flesh or blood, but satanic principalities and powers.

In these last days, we must guard our hearts seriously and be sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit. It is not about being fearful of people but walking in wisdom for there are wolves in sheep’s clothing, satan as a roaring devouring lion counterfeiting Jesus the redeeming Lion of Judah.

Also it is exhausting and an unproductive use of your time (it is set for God’s purposes, remember) to be here, there and everywhere being with people who may not be sent by the LORD and going places under their influence where God may not have sent you.

Prayer:
Father I commit all our friendships into your hands. You know us, who we are and our purpose in this world. Father I pray that you will minister to each and every one of us and give us wisdom and discernment in how to conduct our interpersonal relationships so that whatever we do with whoever we are with is your will and gives glory to your kingdom, in Jesus’ name Amen.
You are blessed, determine to stay blessed.
Deborah E. Nyamekye

©Deborah E.Nyamekye 21/11/2015

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PLAIN SPEAKING & COUNSEL V: Close Friends by Divine Appointment

Want Close friends made in heaven? Make the Holy Spirit your best friend.

If Jesus needed a close circle of friends to walk with, twelve disciples and then three who were even closer (Peter, James and John) so do we who are his.

Seek the LORD and ask Him who should be among your close friends or in your close inner circle. Trust me, certain people do not qualify and also be warned that not everyone wants you to prosper or fulfil your identity.

When Jesus went to the garden of Gethsemane, he told some of the disciples to wait and took three with him, Peter, James and John who were the only ones that he said the following to them “My soul is exceedingly sorrowful, even to death. Stay here, and watch with me” (Matthew 26:38).

These were the only three disciples he chose because they were destined to walk with Jesus in this manner by God. Could it be that there are people chosen by God to walk with you in different ways? Those who are mere acquaintances, close friends and some even closer? I believe so.

Not every one should known hidden things about you nor your secrets or highly personal issues. We have to walk in God’s wisdom and discernment in relation to how we relate with others.

Could it also be that as Jesus had Judas in his entourage for only a season because he served a specific purpose only for that season (which was to betray Jesus), that likewise there are certain people in your life and mine only for a season and serving a specific purpose in that season after which they are to leave? I believe this is the case.

In my experience even as a Christian, there are people who were friends of mine, in fact the ones I am thinking of approached me so we became friends but as I grew spiritually and if I told them what God was doing in my life, they would at the time be congratulatory but then after a while appear not to want to know details of things I have birthed to the glory of God. I told them those things not to boast but because as I thought they were close friends, I would want to share or discuss it with them.

I noticed they would never bring the subject up and would become more scarce in my life, failing to stay in touch as frequently as when I did not have anything significant for them to envy or feel threatened by. At times I would discern in their voice and attitude that they were not really happy for me. I thought back at one of them in particular and how she said God sent her to me in a time when I was quite distressed and she was a great source of encouragement to me and I do believe that God sent her for not only did she encourage me but also prayed for me many times.

However when by God’s delivering hand I began to change my manner of speech and attitude to one who was highly self encouraging and unrelenting in fulfilling prophetic destiny, as well as being one to minister to her and encourage her as well, I realised sadly a change in her attitude towards me or her desire to be a consistent friend.

I never told her I did not need her encouragement and prayers, but something in her could not accept me anymore because I had changed. Honestly I struggled to understand and was often hurt by certain mannerisms and attitudes that surfaced as a result of me speaking about what God was doing in my life or refusing to stay in the “poor me, pity me” mindset and attitude.

I did forgive her as God gave me a depth of understanding of why she was acting that way and I began to pray for her. However now having had a certain measure of God given discernment, I have stopped taking initiatives to sustain “close” friendships when I felt they are not bothered anyway to make an effort to stay in touch. In addition, I don’t hesitate to let people be who start acting strange and think it necessary to pull away from me or those I personally feel led to pull away from if I discern that they don’t like the new me who I know is the real healed me coming to the fore.

If a close friendship begins to fizzled out and you know your conscious is clear and you have not deliberately hurt the person or are in anyway responsible, let it end its course. I have realised that at times certain friendships are for seasons and some people cannot be close to you anymore as you advance into the purposes of God. If you dare forcefully stay in touch with them it is to your detriment especially if you discern the spirit of jealousy, envy and bitterness.

Cry out for the gift of discerning of spirits and the Wisdom of God. In these last days, whatever you do make sure you are doing all that is humanly possible in relation to Godly Christian living in order to stay strong in the LORD and in the power of His might! The people you hang around with, call your close friends or confidants will play a great part in determining whether you stay strong and on course to fulfilling your destiny.

It is only in staying close to God in the power of the Holy Spirit that you will know who God has sent into your life for mutual personal and kingdom purposes, what these are and for how long. You will also know how to interact with people as according to God’s will so that you do not miss God induced mutual opportunities and blessings.

The Holy Spirit knows the wisdom and will of God and reveals them to us (I Corinth. 2). Much prayer for the fruit and gift of the Spirit will develop your nature to be as one who is shrewd as a serpent and gentle as a dove as well as one who has God’s perspective on things. The wisdom of God and seeing things God’s way will therefore keep you one step ahead of the enemy at all times.

Satan and his demons are pacing about through people and situations seeking whom to devour. The Holy Spirit should therefore be our closest or best friend first and foremost and through him we will be able to discern or know who should be our confidant or close friend. In addition the Holy Spirit will give us sensitivity as to where we should and should not go. We are therefore protected from danger and opening ourselves up to situations which include ungodly alliances that are not God’s will for us.

I can testify that God has been bringing me genuine friends who are excited about and share my vision as I do theirs because we understand each other as we are equally yoked spiritually, by this I mean that the Holy Spirit is as much their best friend as mine.

Thank you Holy Spirit!

Come Holy Spirit, have your way! God we ask for a greater measure of the gift of discerning of spirits this day, so as to know who we should walk with closely.

We ask for God’s choice of close friends in our lives who are the type of friends we are equally yoked with.
Change us if in anyway we fall short of the type of friends you expect us to be to others.
In Jesus’ mighty name we pray Amen

I love you LORD❤️
©Deborah E. Nyamekye 15/07/2016